Women of a New Season: Building Strong

Ephesians 4: 29:  Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouth, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Everyone loves to hear about the end times and the things that are coming upon the earth. So, today I want to talk about something to help you be safe and secure during those times.  It’s very simple really, all you need to do is get into God’s word and start living it.  This verse today is a big part of this.

A few minutes ago I heard some people talking about someone and they were really ripping them apart.  The verse above popped into my mind.  We need to be using our words to build others up not to tear them down. That old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” Is a long way from the truth. Our words can stunt the growth in our children if we tell them they are stupid, worthless, etc.  And yes, people do that, I’ve heard them.

What if you had the opportunity to change someone’s life for the better, wouldn’t you want to do that?  Every person you converse with is a golden chance at speaking something good into their lives.  I know for a fact if you have faith that someone can improve, and begin to speak that over their life and into their heart, they will change. People tend to live up to our expectations.  Tell them they are unworthy long enough and they’ll believe it.  Tell them they are worthy, handsome or pretty, and capable long enough and they will begin to feel it and live it out. Think about this before you bash them, talk down to them, criticize and malign them.

Proverbs 18: 21:  Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

We each have a choice.  To you want to be one who is known for gossiping, maligning, and tearing others down?  Or, would you rather be known for treating others in a way that builds them up and makes them strong?

When I was a little girl, we made a move that required me to go to a new school.  I was nervous and feeling insecure to say the least.  The first day there the teacher called on kids to repeat a nursery rhyme by pointing at one of the many small posters lined all around the blackboards.  She had a pointer and each child repeated the rhyme that went with the picture.  She called on me and I began to recite, but I misspoke and all the kids began to laugh.  The teacher also threw her head back and laughed.  In my child’s mind it was like a horror movie with faces distorted and mouths huge with laughter.  I was terrified, and my lips quivered, but I didn’t cry although I felt tears trying to come. “What’s the matter with you?” she said, “Don’t you even know a simple nursery rhyme?”  We were fourth grade kids, and way past that stage of learning in my mind, but nevertheless, she totally stole my self-confidence.  I remember the first time I told my husband this story, he put his arms around me and held me close.  He said he could see I was wounded deeply by those words.  He prayed with me and began to tell me how articulate I was and how I’d make a great speaker.   That’s called building strong.  Today I can stand before a crowd and speak without fear, and if I flub it along the way, it no longer makes my lips quiver, I just laugh it off. One person marked a little girls tender heart with fear, but another person came along and validated that long ago child.

Psalm 141: 3:  Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!

Your words can make someone feel like a worm, or a beautiful butterfly.  The choice is yours. Every person is a living soul and worthy of love, respect and validation.  Until next time!


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